Lowering The Gradients Considering The Personality Of The Girl

When we are talking about subjects like "relating to women", or "how to relate to women" or "Are you able to relate to women?", I usually get asked regarding the best way to start getting physical with a girl that you have known as a friend for some time.

Getting physical is something which usually occurs naturally between a man and a woman more than a three month period unless of course one or both of them is extremely uncomfortable on disinterested.

When a man is uncomfortable with approaching a girl for a physical relationship, the main thing which a man can do to deal with that is learn to observe and use gradients.

What exactly are gradients? Gradients are like steps on a ladder which you climb to get to the top. A few guys may try to go to the top level of the ladder without ascending any of the steps. And that makes the girl uncomfortable as well as the guy.

A guy who is not comfortable in this area ought to learn both how to recognize gradients when women use them and the way to make use of gradients on women.

Not every woman will start at the same gradient. A few women will begin with a kiss after a first date, and move up gradually or swiftly from there - from kissing, to making out, to petting, to heavy petting and lastly to sexual relations. If a man tries to jump to the "sexual relations" stage without going through the other gradients, he may just lose the girl. Conversely, you may lose a girl because you are moving up the gradients too slowly.

Now other women won't even be up to the gradient of giving you a goodnight kiss till the seventh date. Gradients for her could be: getting to know you, talking about sexual topics indirectly (for example commiserating regarding an ex-boyfriend), accidental touch (bumping into you while you walk), purposeful little touches to your arm or leg, holding onto your arm as you go walking, holding your hand, after which a goodnight kiss.

If you are uncomfortable with this area and want to get physical with a girl, flirt with her, romance her, observe where she is on the gradients of sexual contact, then take her up the gradients gently. So long as you don't skip a lot of gradients, if she is interested, she will move up the gradients swiftly or gradually depending on her personality.

If she is not interested, she probably won't budge. Try lowering the gradient and if she still doesn't budge, try speaking about it. Ask her if she is interested in a relationship with you or if she only wants to be good friends.

Also remember that most women won't go out on a "date" with you unless of course they are already vaguely fine with the concept of getting physical with you. Therefore you might want to make clear if you are dating or just "chilling out."

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